We begin the series of self-paced videos for module two - Overcoming Fears and Limiting Beliefs - with Fears and Needs.
We’re going to cover:
- What is fear and where it comes from
- How do limiting beliefs and fears connect
- What to be aware of when it comes to fears & limiting beliefs
- How to identify your needs behind a specific fear
- Action: Shake your unhealthy beliefs with “The Work” by Katie Byron
What Is Fear and Where It Comes From
Fear means:
- A natural and instinctual emotion as a response to danger.
- Out basic survival mechanism, that keeps us from harm’s way.
- An essential part of the human experience, in the mind and body.
- What is ingrained in the mechanism “Fight, Flight, Freeze”.
- What can manifest as a phobia, as anxiety, or as a specific type of fear.
How do limiting beliefs and fears connect
- Fears can emerge from limiting beliefs, if afraid of contradicting them.
- Fear is intensified by confirmation bias, which reinforces limiting beliefs.
- Limiting beliefs trigger negative self-talk, leading to fear & self-criticism.
- Limiting beliefs include fear of failure, rejection or not being accepted.
- Connecting limiting beliefs with fears creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What to be mindful of
- Breaking the cycle of fear implies reframing limiting beliefs.
- Don’t step away from feeling fearful, but act within that place of fear.
- To address fear & limiting beliefs be self-aware and take action.
- A negative mindset created by fear & limiting beliefs hinders success.
- Practice “Name it to tame it” approach to (re)gain control.
How to Identify Your Needs
1. Question your fears. Ask “What am I trying to protect / avoid?”
2. Explore your beliefs. Ask “How did it start? Which needs are behind?
3. Examine your thought patterns. Ask “Which are repeated & why?”
4. Seek feedback. Ask friends, family, mentors “What do you see?”
5. Challenge assumptions. Ask “Is this really true? With what evidence?”
Shake Your Unhealthy Beliefs
1. Is this belief 100% true?
2. Which proof do you have that is 100% true? Or that it is false?
3. What do you feel and how do you act when this belief resurfaces?
4. Who are you without this belief?
5. How would you rephrase this belief, so it becomes supportive?
“Courage is not having the strength to go on. It is going on when you don't have the strength.” - Theodore Roosevelt
